Of course, it is impossible to choose between bubonic plague and cholera. I do not wish anyone either between narcissism and depression. But if someone had to… Well, if it had to… It seems to me that depression is at least nicer than narcissism. That people with depression are not as easily as people with narcissism.
Firstly (narcissism vs. depression 0:1), it is determined by the nomenclature. While depression is a “disease”, narcissism is a “disorder” and a “disorder of personality”. A disease is something that is not me – although it attacks and touches me. But precisely because it “attacks” and “touches”, it appears as a foreign body, an intruder. And narcissism as a type of organization of personality is something embedded, or even worse – it is my “I”. It is said that a person is a narcissus and not a narcissus.
Secondly (0:2) – although the transition from point 1 is continuous – the fact that someone “is a narcissus” largely brings him/her to the same property, characteristic, identity in the eyes of others (and, above all, in the eyes of thinking). Note that in the term “depressant” (a dictionary immediately points out to me that there is no such word – and I know it), there is also a much less benevolent tone than in “depressed”. Someone may have depression, but be a nice guest. But to be a narrator and e.g. to be a nice guest? Never in life!
Thirdly (0:3), depression has a certain esteem in psychotherapy, and narcissism does not. I am referring to a fairly well-known term created by British psychoanalyst Melanie Klein: “the “depressive position”. According to Klein, this position is desirable. It is an expression of maturity and appears only after man has passed (and not everyone can) the so-called “schizo-paranoid position”. “The “depressive position” – I immediately apologize to all the alienists for the boorish simplification – means readiness to consciously accept all those emotional states and thoughts that we often associate with depression, namely: sadness, disappointment, regret. Achieving maturity in such a way we accept that our possibilities are limited, that we will not regain/obtain such unity as the one that united us with our mother, and that we age and die. A depressive position is not one of depression, although some elements are common. Is it possible, on the other hand, to try to pronounce the phrase “narcissistic position”? No. And if you do, it’s probably only in an offensive sense: when you’re too narcissistic and set up as if to an image with one leg forward and one’s nose torn – then maybe you’re in a narcissistic position. But we do not wish anyone that.
Fourthly, I looked on the Internet to see how the search engine reacted to both passwords. Probably I have enabled dynamic search, so the results are related to what I was looking for earlier and what Google thinks about me, nevertheless, the search results seem to give some truth. These are the following
Fourthly, a (0:4) depressed person is placed closer to the center of our universe as someone in need. Even we are allowed to have depression. And it is worth considering how to help such a suffering person (whether he is close to himself or herself). And the narcissus must first of all be unmasked. Because he already turned out to be rather a nasty stick, e.g. by becoming our husband or wife and only then letting himself be recognized as a narcissus. We must defend ourselves!
There is a psychological phenomenon called “narcissistic depression”. Hm, how to write about it here? It is such a state of breakage of the narcissistic structure, of the collapse of the world. Very unpleasant. Narcissistic depression occurs when someone with a narcissistic personality structure can no longer hide from himself that building an image of oneself based only on admiration, conviction of omnipotence, denial of unwanted aspects, simply does not work. Sometimes it is caused by a significant and spectacular defeat, sometimes by a simple discovery of passing. And then all those unpleasant feelings appear, which we try to get rid of as narcissus: shame, insecurity, fear, bitterness.